Thursday, September 3, 2015

How to Survive Being a New Mommy

Being a new mommy is one of the most wonderful and terrifying feelings in the entire world! You have grown this little person inside of you for 9 months and now they are in your arms. 

If you are anything like I was you are probably over the moon happy that they are here but scared out of your mind about what could happen. I was that mom because when SJ was a few hours old my Dad was holding her while rocking back and forth. The nurse walked by and instantly stopped. My new mommy nerves started going all crazy! She had told my dad to stop rocking for a second because she didn't like the noise coming from SJ. She then took SJ to the nursery so her Pediatrician could look at her who was still on the unit. 

The doctor came in after a few minutes which seemed like the longest amount of time ever! Told me that SJ would have to stay in the nursery at night because of the way she was breathing. They weren't worried but they just wanted to monitor her. The doctor told me she thought it was due to her little face being squished during delivery. Thank goodness she was perfectly fine but it didn't stop me from being super scared of very little thing. 

I have a few tips that helped me get through being a new mommy when I was scared out of my mind! 

Enjoy being a Mom.
       I know that is probably a given but I have to say it. You don't get this time back with your kids. You will blink and they will be packing their car for college. Just soak up every single second of holding them, feeding them, and all of the baby things they will do. Don't worry about holding them too much everything will adjust itself later. You will not worry about how much sleep you have gotten while you are kissing their little fingers and toes. Take lots of pictures! That always made me feel so much better! I don't know why but it did.

Sleep whenever you can
        I am sure you have heard this one before but seriously sleep whenever you can! It will help you keep your mind a little bit. If your hubby decides to take a night shift LET HIM! You are not a bad mom for needing someone to hold the baby while you take an hour nap. It will be fine and they will okay being held by someone else. If the baby is napping do not worry about the chores that need to get done. You most likely don't have the energy to do them anyway. 

Take people's help
     This one was the hardest for me to do because I have always been the one to take it all on. I had to swallow my pride and ask for help a few times. Whether it was when my dad asked if I needed him to cook super for us so we could rest or when my mother in law offered to hold the baby while we slept. I also asked my sister lots and lots of questions while I was nursing and she helped me as much as she could. She was currently living in NYC so a phone call, text, Facebook, or Skype was about all we could do since she couldn't be there in person. It honestly helped me be able to take on this new life. It also made me realize that I wasn't alone. 

Don't stress about the housework 
       Being a new mommy is stressful enough that adding another worry will just make you go crazy! It will be okay if your laundry isn't folded and put away while you are trying to get this new mommy gig down. If someone offers to help you...TAKE IT! You honestly will be too tired to deep clean the whole house so just do what you absolutely need to get done. Save your energy for the screaming baby who has their nights and days mixed up. 

Take a shower!
       Seriously girl TAKE A SHOWER! It will help you be able to cope with the fact that you are absolutely down right exhausted. You might even get five minutes of sleep while you rinsing out your shampoo and or conditioner. Actually possibly both. Plus who doesn't feel a little better after they have clean hair? I know I feel like I can take on the world! 

Watch Netflix
      Laying on the couch, sitting in the recliner, or laying in bed is the perfect place to try to figure out this new life you have been thrown into. Watching a series that you have been looking forward to is the perfect way to do so. I went through One Tree Hill when I was adjusting after SJ was born. Honestly I used Netflix a lot when Bug was born. Not for me but for the children. I watched a lot of Octonauts, Little Einsteins, My Little Pony, Tinkerbell, and Dinosaur Train. It helped my older children chill out when Bug decided he didn't want to sleep the night before. I am probably a horrible mom for letting my children watch TV for as long as they did but hey they are just fine and more important they are still ALIVE. That is really what matters. 

Eat whatever you want
       Do not worry about trying to get back into your pre-pregnancy jeans, or shirts, or shorts, or even your underpants. There will be time for you to start eating healthy and working out. If someone wants to bring you a pizza, eat the whole darn pizza! You are going to need that food to cope with the baby that is fighting sleep. Or the one who screams through their ENTIRE bath which causes your body to react and you have a wet shirt. And not one that was wet from water. Sometimes a cheesy burger is all you need to deal with the craziness that has taken over and will never go away. 

I hope these tips help you deal with being scared out of your mind. I will tell you it does get a little easier...slowly...then someone throws a wrench in your plan and your life is crazy again but in a different way.

Just remember IT IS WORTH IT!


  1. These pieces of wisdom are fabulous, Kristen! Smart mama, you! Pinning! :)

    1. Thank you Elizabeth!!! It took me three tries to be able to cope with the new mommy deal. Sometimes I still question how SJ and D3 made it without me being locked up!